What is a puppy?
I get asked this all the time. I found the best answer on www.humanpups.com:
A puppy or dog is a human pet. It can be a male or female who identifies closely with real biological pups/dogs and lets go their human inhibitions and stress to embrace their animal instinct. They live in the moment, their entire existence revolves around getting a pat on the head, being told they are a good puppy, exploring anything and everything that looks interesting or fun, even if it’s sniffing someone in public. A pup/dog may take on the persona of a biological canine to varying degrees from being on all fours chasing balls and barking instead of talking to only taking on the personality of a pup/dog but retaining their human abilities.
For me it’s an emotional place in my head that I can go to and be at peace with myself. I can be free.
I found my inner pup pretty quickly and released it easily, this cannot be said for all pups out there. For some it takes time and patience to get to this place.
How did I start?
I started exploring things and contacted my friend who was a pup. He directed me to get in touch with his Sir. I contacted him and this was our initial conversation:
Pup Bayard: I mean the first question is how do I become a pup
Mark: What makes you feel like that is who you are? Describe what/who a pup is to you.
Pup Bayard: somewhat submissive, if not fully, the feeling if being petted, hair scratched, etc is majorly appealing. The feeling of being a pet makes me happy. I think that’s what I’m trying to say.
Mark: Nicely said.
Pup Bayard: I feel like as a sub obeying the command given is important as in training my dog vic at home
Mark: So you have a dog? What kind?
Pup Bayard: Pit bull mix, I’m a foster daddy
Mark: Excellent. Think about Vic… What is the natural instinct of him? What is the nature of him? And most dogs, for that matter.
Pup Bayard: Starts off wild and free, needs to be trained, sometimes forced into submission to understand rules. Obedient once fully trained. Playful and loyal
Mark: I would say, trained or not, a puppy is, like you said, playful and loyal. They also show unconditional love. Would you agree?
Pup Bayard: Yes. Very much so …
Mark: Submission and obedience is owner specific. Agreed?
Pup Bayard: Yes. You asked for my opinion on my pup
Mark: So let’s now look at the nature of who you are. Do you find your self to be a person of unconditional love, loyalty, playfulness…
Pup Bayard: Yes, definitely…
Mark: Do you feel a sense of service?
Pup Bayard: Service to those around me? Of wanting to please?
Mark: Service can mean a lot of things, that’s true. Service to community service to people service to friends. What does it mean to you
Pup Bayard: Depends on the situation honestly. You named it. Community, helping others around me, volunteering at affirmations, etc. People, taking care of them both in good times and bad. Friends, just loyalty is key. Family unconditional love.
Mark: So let’s say you are at an event where there are a variety of human pups. Would you be a pup who would rather play with a bunch of other pups in a mosh pit?
Pup Bayard: Depends on the mood of the pups around, I would have to feel them out first. Explore, especially in a first time environment
Mark: What appeals to you most about being a pup
Pup Bayard: The thought of being ones pet…I don’t know how to describe that feeling. Being owned, being there for them, bringing enjoyment, while playing at the same time
Mark: You certainly fill the role of a pup quite well, if you don’t mind me saying so.
Pup Bayard: The thought of sitting at someone’s feet while they play with my hair and pet my back makes me happy. Showing them love and affection back through my actions whether through playfulness, or through whatever way I’m told appeals to me. Can a pup be a switch?
Pup Bayard: I was told I was a switch
Mark: Being a pup is so much more that submission and obedience.
Pup Bayard: I prefer submissiveness, but sometimes a dominant side comes out. I’m just saying, i know there’s soooo much more which is why I’m asking questions
Mark: Never feel like you have to submit to someone just because you’re a pup. You don’t submit to a Sir just because he’s a Sir. Show a Sir respect and station.
Pup Bayard: Explain station.
Mark: Respect is obvious. Station means how you address a Sir. Using his title of Sir in responses and requests, etc… Make sense?
Pup Bayard: So I should end my statements to you in sir, sir
Mark: I typically prefer it in responses. “Yes, Sir” “No, Sir”. Not after every message.
Pup Bayard: Yes, Sir. So how do I find a sir?
Mark: What kind of Sir are you looking for?
Pup Bayard: Based on my answers so far what kind hold I be looking for? What kinds are there? As you can tell I’m inquisitive. I need a full understanding.
Mark: I’d say we are all somewhat different. Highly dominant? Leader? Friend? Mentor? I can tell you the kind of Sir I am and am not.
Pup Bayard: What if I want someone who is a Lil of all of that
Mark: Some Sirs would hold your collar and bond you to him and no other. Some would allow you to still be with whomever you want except when you’re with him.
Pup Bayard: Not too dominant, but knows when to put me in my place, definitely more of a leader, a mentor, and someone who is a friend. I want some freedom, but I still want to be controlled.
Pup Bayard: Where do I find a sir like that?
Mark: There are a few around. Age preference?
Pup Bayard: Older than me, but not too old. I look rather young.
Mark: Preference to distance from you?
Pup Bayard: Not too far as I’m learning but I can travel within reason…do you have a sir in mind?
Mark: In Michigan? Surrounding States as well?
Pup Bayard: Probably Michigan.
Mark: For me, I request that a pup ask for me to consider being his Sir. What if your Sir has multiple pups or boys?
Pup Bayard: That doesn’t bother me, i grew up with 4 brothers. Are you taking on new pups sir?
Pup Bayard: Would you consider a new pup, Sir?
Mark: I certainly think you need mentorship before jumping into a relationship with a Sir. Might be a better place for us to start.
Pup Bayard: Very understandable. Will you be my mentor sir?
Mark: I’d be honored to be your guide and mentor.
This is where I decided 100% that I was finally ready to enter the pupdom community and flew into it head first!!
Pup Bayard lives in metro Detroit where he’s active in the community and runs the pup blog Paw Street. He can be reached through his website.