Playtime Explored – Chastity

61509_4658Before i start i just want to say that this was a hard topic to write about. This is a foreign concept to me and i don’t identify as a boy who wants to be in chastity. i decided to write about this because i was talking with a friend of mine and he was talking about how his Dom has him in chastity and i found it, well interesting.

It’s important to understand having a boy in chastity is nothing new, not “bad” and is certainly nothing for you to be fret over, whether you’re a sub who’s coming to terms with his needs (and maybe even fighting with them), or a Sir/Master whose boy/slave has revealed his need for chastity to you and you’re seeking advice.

Paul Brown is Indiana Leatherboy 2013. He writes about explorations in leather and fetish and lives in southwestern Indiana. His column runs monthly.

Paul Brown is Indiana Leatherboy 2013. He writes about explorations in leather and fetish and lives in southwestern Indiana. His column runs monthly.

First, let’s look at what we usually mean when we discuss chastity. In everyday life we generally treat chastity and celibacy as being the same.

Chastity: what we usually mean is chastity in addition to orgasm denial. So what we’re not suggesting is simply not  engaging in sexual activity. Quite the reverse: boys/slaves who live a chastity lifestyle generally find they are not only enjoying increased sexual activity, but find themselves actually enjoying it much more than they ever thought they could.

What i am talking about is the Sir/Master taking control of His boy’s/slave’s climax and not allowing him to reach one unless He says he can, even if you’re getting him to please You in different ways not involving a subs erection, not permitting the sub to orgasm.

Celibacy, on the other hand, is where you just don’t engage in sexual activity, perhaps because you’re without a Dom, or perhaps there could be another reason i can’t even begin to imagine. Interestingly, someone who’s celibate may well have more orgasms than someone who’s living the chastity lifestyle, just because a celibate sub can masturbate, but a chaste sub can’t.

i had to ask a friend of mine, whom is a slave, why he would want to be put in Chasity? He replied that it makes him more focused on things and not focusing on sex. That would make sense to me, that a sub would want to do that, but i don’t think that is the case with every sub. Myself on the other hand, it would make me moody. So this may not be for every sub, but might enhance the D/s relationship for others.

If you have any questions or comments, please let me know at inleatherman@gmail.com! Also i have noticed that comments disappear on here from time to time (because of spammer attracts), so please make sure to email if would like a response or want me to write about a subject.

i leave you with my favorite quote: “It is not who we are that holds us back, it is who we think we are not.”

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